Using communication to defuse client conflict

On this episode of The Vet Blast Podcast presented by dvm360, our host Adam Christman, DVM, MBA, welcomes Debra Hamilton, JD, to the show to discuss the importance of communication in veterinary medicine. Throughout the episode, Hamilton emphasizes the need for veterinarians to build relationships with clients by asking curious questions and being transparent.

Through this episode, Hamilton highlights common disputes, such as lack of communication, and suggests setting boundaries and using mediation to resolve conflicts. Plus, the value of learning from breeders and the impact of negative experiences on client-veterinarian interactions, and more.

Below is a partial transcript, edited lightly for clarity.

Adam Christman, DVM, MBA: In your experience, what are some of the more common disputes that you see in general? Generally speaking, what are some of the things veterinarians call you over?

Debra Hamilton, JD: Lack of communication.

Christman: Yeah.

Hamilton: It's as you said, pets have become so much more important to all of us in our lives in the 50s and 60s, [Peter Weinstein, DVM, MBA] said on my podcast, ‘Why do pets matter?’ The reason pets are so important to us now is because you guys effectuated a really [great change] in tick medicine, so we can take [pets to] bed with us now, and so right now they're so much more than they were when I was young, which was 100 years ago, but the breakdown in communication and the stories we tell ourselves.

So veterinarians tell themselves stories about clients, if they think they're like that other client, or even if they're just surmising what the client is doing and why they're doing it, you have no idea. Ask that curious question, Adam, you seem a little tense today, tell me a little bit about what's going on, because it seems like we're not having as great a conversation as we've had. And Adam might say, well, I had a fight with my partner, or I had a car accident while I came in, or I spilled my coffee on myself, so that creates that human touch.

When I talk to pet owners, they're always like, they never tell me anything, they just do things, and everything's behind closed doors now. So many veterinarians like to take your dog in the back, and that really affects that trust for veterinarians and their staff. Trust has been the stalwart of veterinary medicine. People came to you because they knew you, they liked you, they trusted you, and now that doesn't seem to be such an important piece of the relationship between veterinarians and pet owners, and yet, as you know, in your work, if you have a relationship with someone and you can talk about their kids and you can talk about their dogs, and you can talk about baseball. That's going to be a better relationship than if you just come in and ask, "So, what's wrong with Fluffy? or "Why are you here? Let's check up on Fluffy.”

They want to have that relationship where they know that you are giving them 100% of your attention, listening to them, reflecting back what they're saying, and asking curious questions, which always helps.

Christman: That's what it's all about. I feel like I'm more of a pediatrician than anything else. And I would always try to do a little bit of a, like, checking in, see how it's going. How are the kids doing in school? Because you really a part of that journey with them in the family, and I always invite the new graduates to kind of take off the doctor cap for a moment and just put on the pet parent cap, because at the end of the day, that's what we have in common on the same side of that exam table, is that we love our animals, and so you know, you want to check in, how's it going, you say, ‘oh, you know what, it's been a really rough week.’

So in my mind I know, okay, little bit of tension already, little stress, and the other thing that I see a lot of is the unknown. A lot of these pet owners have anxiety because they don't know what we're going to tell them, that could be a lipoma to you and I, but to them that's a mass, and that's annoying, and that's scary, but if you dismiss them, then trust is broken, and I love that you mentioned that, because it's so hard to earn the trust. I think it's easy to really lose it, but having that transparency and that ability to get their buy-in is so important.